Amy-Bridges_SmartFem profile-2_90“Love is what we are all seeking either openly or privately. Why then, is it so hard to find?” Amy Bridges is a contributing writer at SmartFem with her new column aimed to help readers on Bridging the gap to love and dating. She is passionate about guiding individuals on the right path when dating. Amy is thrilled to assist SmartFem readers with obstacles they might have in their quest for love.

So if everyone is looking for love, why is it so hard to find? That is the winning question and the answer will have infinite possibilities. Why is it there are so many amazing people open to love or would love to be in love and have a relationship, yet at the end of the day, so many of them are still single? So if everyone is looking for love, why is it so hard to find?

Man giving woman gift.Is it that there are not “plenty of fish in the sea,” as they say? Are we not putting ourselves in the right places or finding the right opportunities to meet the right person? Have we become too focused on other goals in our lives that we forget about the one thing we, as human beings, all desire at our core… to love and to be loved?

Are we just too picky? I often hear many singles say, “I just don’t have the time to date.” Time goes by… sometimes years… and then it seems we suddenly but quietly panic.  Often as a result, we subconsciously become desperate, and desperation is never a desirable character quality for successful dating.

How many times have you met someone who had appeared perfect on paper, and yet you knew just wasn’t “the one?” In my experience I have often found that I loved certain qualities in the different people I dated and that if I could just take those qualities from each and combine them into one person… therein lies my perfect mate.

Despite all the differences, men and woman do share one thing in common. Having interviewed hundreds of singles, I’ve found ultimately both sexes agree… finding love and that special person would be a personal success of greater value than any amount of money or any plaque of accomplishment on a wall. Love is what we are all seeking either openly or privately. Why then, is it so hard to find?

Look for Amy Bridges’s next column every two weeks.