Author: Deb Lapmardo

Falling Up: How I Conquered my Fear of Heights (And How You Can Too)

It was time to stop being afraid. It was time to stop missing opportunities, or avoiding situations that I knew would trigger my fear. I was done with that heart-pounding, stomach-clenching fear. Or at least I hoped I would be. My motivation was a proposed hike down into the Grand Canyon, that spectacular, awe-inspiring, Natural Wonder of the World that I would miss out on if I couldn’t master my fear. So I cobbled together a plan and put it into action. It got me to my goal and, I hope, will get you to your goal too. The...

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How To Bridge The Great Political Divide in Your Life

We’ve got a modern-day Civil War on our hands. It’s Right against Left, brother against sister, husband against wife — or at least it is in my household. Nowhere is the Great Political Divide more apparent than in my own home, where a man I have loved and cherished has seemingly taken leave of his senses and joined the Evil Empire. Or to paint it from his point of view, his partner-through-thick-and-thin-in-sickness-and-health has taken leave of her senses and joined the Stupid Brigade. That’s the crux of our Political Divide — both sides are utterly convinced that truth and...

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Wine Doesn’t Have to Make You Fat

“I can’t drink wine — it’ll make me fat.” Really? The good news for all you wine lovers out there is that “it ain’t necessarily so.” While wine has calories, dry wine is low-carb and totally free of fat. So why do we think our favorite beverage will pack on the pounds? Here’s a quick video take on the wine/fat debate:  Now let me add some recent research. A study of 19,000 women showed that moderate wine drinkers were less obese as they aged than non-drinkers. Good news! But every wine lover knows that junk food looks pretty good...

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Go Wild With Bubbles This New Year’s Eve

Hoisting the same old toast at midnight is about as much fun as watching those once-famous celebrities count down the Big Ball in Times Square. This New Year’s Eve, shake things up with a new take on holiday cheer. First things first — get your fun on by getting your budget in line. Choose thrifty sparkling wines that will be just as enjoyable as the expensive stuff, to all but a few wine snobs (and they’re no fun at a party, anyway). Just walk right past the “champagne” aisle at your wine store: true champagne, while elegant and sophisticated, will cost four or five times more than a bubbly from other parts of Europe or California. Look instead for Cava (from Spain) or Prosecco (from Italy). They’re great straight up, or make terrific sparkling cocktails like the ones below. And they’ll suit any tastebuds — many are available in Dry (Brut), Semi-Dry (Semi-Seco) or Sweet (Dolce). And don’t wait until midnight to break out the bubbly. Sip it all night New Year’s Eve, either straight or blended, and while you’re at it, make up your own delicious sparkling cocktails. Here are some easy tips for creating custom drinks (and remember, you’re not doing brain surgery here, so just grab a few interesting ingredients and give it a go). Pour an ounce or so of any fruit liqueur into the...

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Treat Yourself to the Best Reward

Think about this: how do you motivate yourself to finish that boring assignment at work, or tackle that nasty chore at home? Do you promise yourself a yummy treat? New shoes or a handbag? Some drinks at the bar with your friends? We all, subconsciously or not, motivate ourselves to perform and achieve by promising ourselves some kind of reward. And that’s not a bad thing! It helps encourage productive behavior and adds a little fun to our lives. But let’s look at those rewards. Food is the go-to for many of us, perhaps because we heard as children, “If you get an A on your test, we’ll go for ice cream.” Unfortunately, it’s easy to see how that positive motivator can create a negative result — a weight problem! As the T-shirt says, “Stop rewarding yourself with food; you’re not a dog.” And what if the promise of a trip to the mall is what gets us through the week? While yet another Kate Spade may seem like good clean fun, you may reach a point where your overflowing closet starts feeling like way too much “stuff.” And it may seem like your life is all about acquiring   things, not happiness. The rewards we choose suggest what we value. And if we limit our reward system to goodies and baubles, we may be missing a chance to truly...

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Make Your Safe Haven Safe Again-Throw Out the Toxic

There are plenty of things in our environment that can kill us, some quickly and some more insidiously. Among the easiest to spot and eliminate are the toxins that leak out of our plastic kitchen “stuff” and contaminate the food and beverages we ingest every day. Our babies and children are particularly vulnerable to toxins such as BPA, PVC and Phthlates, which are used to manufacture food storage containers, water bottles, cooking implements, toys and even baby bottles. If those hard-to-pronounce chemical names don’t seem very scary, their side effects sure are. These chemicals are “Endocrine Disrupters,” which can...

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