Feminism has come a long way over the past few years. More and more women (and men!) are declaring themselves as feminists and supporting the movement toward human equality. While there have been countless achievements in the name of feminism, there are also things that still make us cringe. Here are some terms and beliefs that need to die immediately if we want the post-feminist movement to keep progressing:
1. “Trophy Wife”
Definition: Refers to a married woman as a status symbol for the husband.
This term has been around for decades now and only contributes to the stereotype that women are prizes instead of people.
2. “Wife me up”
Definition: A term used by women who feel they would make a good wife for reasons such as being able to cook.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a girl post a picture of a homemade meal on Instagram with #WifeMeUp as the caption. The fact that a woman can cook should mean that she is capable of supporting herself, not that she is ready to be a wife.
3. “Wifed Up”
Definition: Describes a woman in a long-term relationship who is considered to be officially “off the market.”
A woman in a long-term relationship doesn’t deserve to be lumped into one with her significant other. She is still capable of making her own decisions and choosing to be single again if she wants to be.
4. “Wifey Material”
Definition: A phrase used by men to describe a woman who they feel possesses the qualities of a perfect wife.
Men have used this term so often around their buddies that now, women become self-conscious if they aren’t being referred to as “wifey material.” The only thing women need to be is themselves!
5. “Women must compete with one another”
Definition: A common belief among women that they have to compete for success or attention.
Fortunately, the post-feminist movement has been fighting against this belief that women should view each other as enemies instead of friends. It should be common knowledge by now that the only way every woman can succeed is by supporting other women.
6. “Women don’t need feminism”
Definition: A belief that women have already achieved equality, and nothing else needs to be done.
Thanks to the amazing women of the past, women have a ton more rights than they used to! However, there is still a long way to go and a lot more to fight for.
7. “Feminists hate men”
Definition: A popular stereotype stemming from radical feminism, in which women blamed men for their lack of rights.
Post-feminists believe that the only way to achieve equality is with the help of men, not without. As a result, more men are calling themselves feminists too!
8. “Wearing the pants”
Definition: The person in a relationship who holds the most power, makes the most money, acts the toughest, etc.
This saying only encourages the gender stereotype that woman can’t possess “manly” qualities such as being tough or holding positions of power. When it comes down to it, though, relationships are about equality, not gaining control over the other person.
9. “Get back to the kitchen”
Definition: Refers to a woman’s place being in the kitchen as a stay-at-home wife and mother.
There was once a time when woman’s place was in the kitchen, because they weren’t allowed to do anything else. Nowadays, women are being hired as scientists, engineers and more. We’re too busy being bosses to have time to stay in the kitchen!
Definition: Something women often hear while walking down the street, minding their own business.
Cat-calling is awful, and so is being told to smile because “you look pretty.” It’s your body, so you should get to smile whenever you want to.