Amy-Bridges_SmartFem profile-2_90“Love is what we are all seeking either openly or privately. Why then, is it so hard to find?” Amy Bridges is a contributing writer at SmartFem with her new column aimed to help readers on Bridging the gap to love and dating. She is passionate about guiding individuals on the right path when dating. Amy is thrilled to assist SmartFem readers with obstacles they might have in their quest for love.

“How many times have you started dating someone and are hopeful that it will work out, only to find out that it doesn’t for whatever reason?” So you break up, stop seeing them, and then all of a sudden, they are back!

Somehow, one or both of you foolishly decides that it may be a great idea to try it again. There is a name for this in the dating world that I like to call a “rerun.”

A “rerun” occurs when your significant other contacts you, or you contact them, and says, “Hey, we should go to dinner sometime to catch up.” You both agree, go on your rerun date and then the night is over.

The following day, if not sooner, your start to think to yourself “Hmmm, this is familiar.” It is often at this point in the thinking process that you are reminded of why you stopped dating them in the first place.

Yes, I know you get lonely, they know you well, it’s familiar…blah, blah, blah. However, odds are pretty high that if it didn’t work out the first time, it’s not going to happen the second time.

Why, one may ask? Because they are who they are and you are who you are. Most people, unless in their late teens or let’s say under 21, are quite set in their ways. Who they are going to become is already decided.

get_ex_girlfriend_backThe best indicator of your future with someone is the past you have had with them.  Not to say that you aren’t both awesome people but what works for one person may not work for another in a relationship.

How many times have you seen in your friends or family a couple who simply didn’t work, yet down the road they have an amazing relationship with someone else. Sometimes people’s values, interests and character are simply not in alignment with certain others.

So, I say start fresh to find someone you are compatible with and let your favorite movie or TV show be the only rerun in your life.