SmartFem’s fashion and beauty expert Annette Loertscher gives tips on how to make the best first impression when interviewing for a new job. She meets with SmartFem expert Dr. Brown to get his input on non-surgical options to look your best for your next career.
When we are little, we dream big. We dream of what we want to do when we grow up, who we will be, and where we will live. Then we grow up, find a job and sometimes find out that what we thought we wanted to be or do just isn’t cutting it. What do you do if you are seeking change in your professional life?
Changing careers takes focus, commitment and most of all, courage. You will evolve inside and out and will likely find yourself stepping out of your more familiar comfort zone. But, there are other steps that you can take to prepare yourself for this transition: you can take assessment tests to determine your talents and the jobs that fit them, do research in your chosen industry, network and create a perfect resume, and then there are the changes you should make to put your best face forward (literally).
This is the perfect time to refresh and polish your image. So what is a 30-, 40- or 50-something to do?
A great place to start is by working with a professional who has experience helping people reinvent themselves. Hire an image consultant or personal shopper. Invest in a professional makeup lesson. A newer current hairstyle or color will give you that polished, professional look. Annette Loertscher, owner of ALL Transformations, adds, “You have 7 seconds to make your initial impression on a potential employer…you had better make sure you are at your absolute best.”
Dr. Richard Joseph Brown “Dr. Rick” is a plastic and reconstructive surgeon serving the Phoenix, AZ area with practices located in Scottsdale, Arizona, as well as Sun City West. Dr. Rick is an expert in the field of plastic surgery and frequently contributes to SmartFem.
Your first step should be to brighten and tighten. You can’t paint on a canvas that has cracked and peeling paint, right? Taking care you your skin, the largest organ in the body, is vital to your overall appearance. Having a facial and peel is a great start to prime the face. Photo facials can address sun damage, and peels and glycolic acids can help with fine lines. Don’t forget your hands, which show age as much as our faces.
There are many non-surgical options that can help you look more refreshed including Botox and fillers for lines and hollowness. A good plastic surgeon should be able to recommend non-surgical interventions and the best treatments to address specific skin concerns.
“Adding more volume to the face is key for a more youthful look,” says Dr. Richard J. Brown, a Scottsdale plastic and reconstructive surgeon. “I prefer to take a more subtle approach, maybe by adding some fullness to the cheeks and around the lip area, without giving you that pouty look. When done right, it can give you a refreshed appearance.”
Loertscher states how important it is to call the HR department of the company you are interviewing with and find out their dress code and then to dress appropriately – wear a professional suit, sensible heels, if you wear a skirt you must wear hose (nude or natural color), carry a briefcase…ditch the purse and of course, turn your cell phone off, or better yet, leave it in your car during the interview to avoid the distraction. Most importantly…exude self-confidence.
Putting your best face forward will project confidence, a great attitude and professionalism. For more great tips on making your career transition a success, visit alltransformations.com.
As a child development consultant and parenting expert, mother, wife and friend, I often wonder if texting is really a good and effective form of communication. We are just in the beginning stages of looking at the research on the pros and cons of texting. Even though we are in a virtual world of texting, video games, social networking, and web communities, what does our future look like for the next generation?
According to the industry research 61% of our children between the ages of 3 and 11 are “virtual world visitors“. 22% of our children, between the ages of 6-9 years of age already have cell phones (YIKES!). According to Parenting.com, 58% of our children of the ages of 10-15 listed texting as a major form of communication.
In order to better help you and the young children, teens, and other adult kids in your life, I have compiled some of the field research on the pros and cons of texting.
- Between 8-13 years of age, kids spend a majority of their online, and over the phone time with the same people they know in real life.
- Kids love it!
- Subscribers under 12 years of age exchanged 3 texts per call to stay in touch with their friends.
- Teens 13-17 years of age were 7 times more likely to text.
- It allows a buffer according to Nathan Freier, PhD at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, against “feelings of awkwardness during this emotionally frightened age.”
- Short text messages help relieve anxiety in some children.
- Much of the texts, according to researchers, is that kids build each other up by making positive statements.
- Kids see technology as extending communication, rather than replacing time with a friend.
- Marion Underwood, a researcher, stated “Kids stay more in touch with their families through texting.”
- According to Underwood, mothers are the first person a child texts.
- Parents enjoy sharing funny faces, comments, and ways to interact with their tweens by texting or online messaging.
- Oftentimes parents are grateful to hear that their kids are doing fine in terms of safety and happiness.
- Cell phones should be removed from children’s bedrooms because kids do not know when to stop texting during the night and become sleep deprived.
- Communication with strangers can turn into very frightening situations because of the naivety of a child, tween, or teen.
- It is less likely that families will eat dinner together and talk in person due to social media.
- Families feel less connected when there has been an increase in total time spent over the phone versus in person.
- If parents role model texting in front of their kids by being on the phone and taking phone calls, then it decreases their time spent talking to their children and they will repeat the same pattern in their own lives.
- The term Ambient Intimacy is when social media, electronic devices, texts, calls, etc. can take the place of living out real life moments together with people.
- Dating can become an uncomfortable situation by being asked out through texting and not on a telephone to clarify and uphold accountability. This is a casual method to connect face to face. Intentions can also be misconstrued.
- Breaking up through a text or a social media message can also be considered a rude, and disrespectful.
We, as a nation, need more research on the effects of social media and the way we relate to one another in terms of our children’s future. Only then can we conclude on whether or not texting is helping or harming our children’s, and family’s communication skills
SmartFem publisher Lea Haben attends the 12th Annual Teaming Up for Girls Luncheon and writes about her experience sharing a table with keynote speaker Elizabeth Smart during the Florence Crittenton fundraiser.
I love my job as a writer and journalist but sometimes I find it intense and painful to witness especially when children have been involved. My heart is forever broken when it comes to JonBenét Ramsey, Polly Klass, Adam Walsh and countless other children who have been the victims of such senseless violence. The Elizabeth Smart abduction really affected me in 2002 as I have a daughter about the same age. At age 14, Elizabeth was only three years older when she was taken from the presumed safety of her bedroom. I remember praying for her safe return and I spent many nights thinking about her poor family and the agony they must have felt. The search for Elizabeth went on for nine months and we were all so relieved when she was found and safely returned to her family.
I recently had the opportunity to meet Elizabeth and see her speak at the Florence Crittenton Teaming Up for Girls Luncheon this week. I also had the privilege to talk to her for a few minutes as I sat at her table.
At times it was difficult to listen to Elizabeth speak as she described her abduction from her family home on June 5th in 2002. We’ve heard the story in the news but coming from Elizabeth directly was so different. My heart stopped when she described that her little sister was sleeping in the same room and although Elizabeth knew she was left sleeping she wasn’t sure if the rest of her family was even alive.
The news and media gave us all the facts but hearing Elizabeth personally describe her recollection of the horrific circumstances made it all too real for us as we listened intently. In person Elizabeth is a beautiful young woman well beyond her years. Her choice to use her experience to help others is very inspiring and quite brave in my opinion.
Elizabeth has penned her memoir; a book called My Story in 2013 with Chris Stewart, a bestselling and award winning author, and has also become an activist. In 2006 she went to Congress to support the sexual predator legislation for the AMBER Alert system and in July of 2006 Elizabeth spoke as the Adam Walsh Act was signed into law. Since then Elizabeth Smart continues to speak publicly and support victims of crimes and other issues involving women and children.
Elizabeth Smart has spoken on human trafficking at Johns Hopkins University and fights for individual self-worth. Last month she testified before the Utah State House of Representative in favor of HB 286, a bill that would create a non-mandated curriculum for use in Utah schools to provide training on sexual abuse prevention.
On a personal note Elizabeth is happily married to Mathew Gilmour, a native of Scotland she met while serving as a missionary in Paris, France.
What I really enjoyed about meeting Elizabeth is that she has used her heart-breaking story to become a champion for others. She is a smart beautiful young woman who will touch everyone who comes in contact with her. I expect we will see more great things from Elizabeth Smart.
The 12th Annual Teaming Up for Girls Luncheon brought hundreds to people together to have an afternoon full of entertainment, education and fundraising.
The Teaming Up for Girls Luncheon is Florence Crittenton’s well-known fundraising event. Florence Crittenton is a non-profit organization aimed to help at-risk adolescent girls in their journey through life. They offer an environment that empowers young ladies to feel safe and find hope.
Carey Peña emceed the event, and let people now how important this organization is for the good of the community. “I love meeting with the girls and learn how their lives are inspired,” she said.
The chairs for this year’s luncheon were Tracey and Larry Lytle. They have been involved with Florence Crittenton for over a decade and this year had the honor of overlooking the whole event.
The events performer was 10-year-old Moriah Paynes. She amazed the crowd with her incredible voice and even received a standing ovation at the end of her performance.
This year’s keynote speaker was Elizabeth Smart. Elizabeth was abducted from her house when she was only 9-years-old and was rescued nine months later. She became an author and public speaker influencing people around the world with her touching story and book titled My Story.
Deborah Bateman, who is on Florence Crittenton Board of Directors, was thrilled about the event. “It is an absolutely incredible organization,” said Deborah. “When they really make an impact, and they really make a change, that’s what inspires me,” she added.
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Florence Crittenton has had a great impact on the lives of thousands of teen girls in the community. Thanks to the generosity of so many people, Florence Crittenton is able to make a difference in young women’s lives. Learn how to make a difference at http://www.flocrit.org or follow the link to donate today.
Among the generous donations to help raise funds during the 12th Annual Teaming Up for Girls Luncheon…
The residents of the valley rocked the red carpet this weekend at the 2014 Oscar Experience black tie event hosted at the Ritz Carlton Phoenix. Dressed in sequined gowns and arriving in limos as they entered the event looking like Hollywood movie stars. Glitz, Glamour and Furs…Oh my!
The Oscar Experience evening was elegant and fun filled. Rolf’s Salon style lounge was there to ensure that everyone was ready for their close-ups. The event was attended by Phoenix’s A-listers. ABC15 was the television partner for the evening and ABC news anchor Connie Colla was the hostess of the evening. Connie rocked the podium in a hot pink evening gown and Hollywood vintage inspired hair.
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There were some fun things for the attendee’s of this year’s Oscar Experience such as Rolf’s styling salon where the women could get their hair and makeup touched up. Once camera ready they could try on gorgeous vintage style furs so that they could have their picture taken at the SmartFem Social Media lounge which was sponsored by Evans Fine Furs and Leathers. Among the generous donations were Michelle Parkhurst of Evans Furs and Coye Pointer of Fiat of Scottsdale.
Attendees were able to watch the live Oscar show on big screens and during intermission we were entertained by young dancers featuring dance numbers from some of Hollywood’s best musicals. Although the glamour and lure of tinsel town is always abundant on this evening it was the gallant speech of young Logan Boles, 2014 Juvenile honoree who touched us with his story.
The evening was that of a fairy tale as the women in their beautiful ball gowns gathered together to support the Arthritis Foundation as well as view the nominated films. Oscar night generates so much excitement worldwide, but it is refreshing to see Phoenicians come together to enjoy each other and come together as a community to support the amazing philanthropic work right here in Phoenix.
The Arthritis Foundation was the charity tied to the Black tie Oscar Experience event. Arthritis strikes about 50 million adults and 300,000 children and is the leading cause for disability in this nation.
I recently made the dream I’ve had since I was a 12-year-old girl come true, I moved to beautiful Hollywood, California to pursue my dream of becoming a professional comedian/writer/actress/ankle model. And with every big move comes great new adventures- like finding a new primary care doctor. Let the fun begin!
After searching online to see which doctors were covered under my insurance, I found a doctor who was only a few blocks from my apartment. I couldn’t believe my luck. You mean I didn’t have to fight the “stop and never go” LA traffic. Instead I could walk to my doctor’s office in the wonderful Southern California weather. This was all the confirmation I needed. So instead of dreading going to a new doctor, I happily made my appointment.
The day of my appointment, I left my apartment a mere eight minutes before I had to be there and I was still two minutes early. After briefly meeting with a nurse for a quick blood pressure and temperature check, my new doctor walked into the examination room, introduced herself and then sat down and started asking questions.
She started asking me about the general medical history of my family. She wanted to know who had cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc. After I was done listing the medical histories of my family, she just stared at me. I then asked, “Do you need to know anything else?” She glanced down at the paper she had been taking notes on and then looked back up at me and said, “No. That is too much. Too much.” She shook her head with a disgusted look on her face. Her response surprised me. I’ve never had a doctor pass such blatant judgment on me after just honestly answering his/her questions. “Oh, I’m sorry. Did we Lunzer’s offend you with our history of diabetes? And going forward I’ll ask my family members to be less cancer-y,” I thought to myself.
Next she asked what medications I was on. I hesitated, but then proceeded to again answer honestly. “You are on too many drugs.” She stared at me intensely as if she was waiting for me to say, “You’re right. I think I’ll just stop taking these horrible medications that have been helping me for years. How awful of me to take one medication that regulates my lady-business and promotes sexual responsibility and another medication that stops me from running into traffic.” Was this lady serious? She acted as though I had just told her that I start my day with a bathtub full of homemade meth and then end my day in a propofol-induced slumber. It was too unbelievable. I was certain that this was an episode of ABC’s “What Would You Do?” and that John Quinones was going to pop out from behind the door at any minute and ask me how I’ve remained so calm in such a ridiculous situation? Sadly, he didn’t.
After her family/pill-shaming she said, “Take off your shirt.” I wasn’t even sitting on the examination table yet. I waited for a second to see if she was going to give me the standard paper robe you normally receive at a doctor’s office, but she just looked at me and said, “bra too.” Apparently they forgot to notify me in advance of my appointment that it was BYOR.
As I got up from my chair to close the door before taking off my shirt she said, “Don’t be shy, honey.” Shy? I didn’t realize that shy was me not wanting the “gentleman” who has been practically yelling into his cell phone right outside of the examination room from seeing me without my shirt on.
So there I sat, completely naked from the waist up as she asked me the reason for my visit today. Well it definitely wasn’t to sit in front of a judgmental doctor with my lady lumps out.
“I’m here for a checkup. My previous doctor said that she detected a heart murmur so I wanted to get a second opinion.” She walked over to me and shined a light in my mouth, “Say ahhh.”
After checking my throat, she checked my joints, ears, eyes, breathing and put pressure on my stomach.
“Does that hurt?”
It didn’t. Actually, I couldn’t feel a thing because all I could do is wonder, “Why does my shirt need to be off to check my ears?”
I’ve never been asked to take off my shirt during a general doctor’s appointment. Only gynecologists have ever asked me to remove my shirt. However, when they do so, they don’t stay in the room and watch “the ‘big’ show.” Instead, they’d leave the room for a few minutes while I removed my clothing and put on the complimentary robe they provided. Then when it was time for the breast exam, they’d gently pull the robe to the side and immediately cover you back up when the exam was over. One gynecologist even apologized for her hands being too cold. In other words, they allowed you to keep your dignity.
By now some of you may be thinking, “What’s the big deal? They’re just boobs.” Well, it’s a big deal to me. I fully admit that I’m a modest gal. If I had to choose between eating a rusty nail sandwich or going on a free all-inclusive beach vacation anywhere in the world and all I had to do was participate in the topless-ness of their topless beach, I’d choose the sandwich.
After the breast examination, I got dressed without instruction. My appointment was over whether she said so or not. I couldn’t wait to get home. I planned on eating my feelings in the form of a giant cheese Danish.
However, just when I thought it was safe and put my clothes back on, in came the nurse who instructed me to undress again for an EKG test. In my head I wanted to run out of the room screaming, “You can’t make me!” However, the thought of even more embarrassment forced me into obedience and off came my shirt…again. By this time, I felt like I was a part of some secret taping of “Girls Gone Wild – The Doctor’s Office Party.”
The nurse placed stickers all over my exposed chest and stomach, which then were connected to wires that were attached to a large machine that sat next to me. While we waited for the machine to spit out the results of the test, she initiated a “friendly” conversation with me:
Nurse: “You going to have kids?”
Me: “Not right now.”
Nurse: “It’s time. No time to wait or it’s too late.”
(Then she pulled out her iPhone and showed me pics of her granddaughter).
Nurse: “You don’t like dis?” (Points to the pic of her baby granddaughter)
Me: “No, she’s fine. I’m sure I’d like her. I’m just too selfish to be a mother right now.”
Nurse: “What you do with your time then?”
Me: “Stand-up comedy.”
Nurse: “Oooooh, so you want to be moooooovie star. (Smiles as she looks me up and down) Well that only happen to very very very very few people. Most (she pretends to spit on the floor) become nothing.
Me: “Can I put my shirt back on now?”
Nurse: “Don’t be so shy, baby.”
The doctor returned and they started speaking Russian to one another. They laughed, looked at me and then laughed some more.
Moral of the story: That’s what I get for choosing proximity over quality. What did I expect from a doctor’s office located above a 7-Eleven in Hollywood. As I took what I can only describe as the “longest walk of shame” back to my apartment, I tried to find a bright side. And then it came to me. At least both the doctor and nurse were showcasing ample cleavage (practically exposing their areolas) so basically, we were all naked and judging each other.
Most people think of the homeless as disheveled adults with signs next to the freeway ramps begging for a handout. The staggering statistics that we don’t talk about is that 1 in 4 children are at or below the poverty level. There is some good news however; these numbers are changing due to the amazing efforts of some of the valley’s leaders.
Darlene Newsom, CEO of UMOM and Debbie Gaby, of Sleep America Charities met with me to discuss some of the ways the homeless have been able to successfully transition into society again. The idea that the majority of the homeless don’t work simply is not true. The biggest population of homelessness is created by families of the working poor. These families work hard, but due to the low wages of Arizona and the high costs of daycare it renders many incapable of sustaining themselves and their families.
UMOM has an all-inclusive program that not only shelters these families, but gives them the support they need but also the important life skills needed to further advance them into society. These life skills include programs such as counseling, parenting classes, interview skills, and safe daycare for their children. The shelter is almost fully self-contained with a beautiful daycare center, full medical center as well as a culinary school to help its residents learn valuable practices they can use in the outside world. The residents can stay up to seven years in transitional homes so that they can finish their education and gain the necessary skills to become self-supporting.
A great deal of planning and services has gone into the program to ensure the successful transition for its residents. Debbie Gaby, of Sleep America Charities was on hand to discuss her partnership with the UMOM organization. Sleep American Charities and Tempur-Pedic donated an astounding 140 beds. These are some of the most expensive luxury beds on the market and they are also made of hypoallergenic materials. Since dust mites and bed bugs cannot penetrate the mattresses, this makes them perfect for the homeless. The beds may be expensive but they will last longer and they don’t have to be replaced as often.
Homelessness is a problem but it does have a solution. If we all would write a check to organizations such as UMOM instead of giving our cash to the homeless we could actually make an even bigger difference. UMOM has a high rate of success for successfully transitioning the homeless.
Remember the donations that you make can put an end to homelessness and hunger for a child.
Women’s Enterprise Foundation’s Joie de Vivre Event Puts On “Savage Botanicals” Fashion Show
When you think of nuts, bolts, cable ties and tree branches, you probably don’t think of haute couture. It was these materials and more, however, that walked the runway at Women’s Enterprise Foundation’s Joie de Vivre event on February 20. The “Savage Botanicals” permanent floral botanical couture fashion show featured 10 hand-sewn gowns inspired by the late Alexander McQueen. Some of the fashion designers spent over 300 hours on the one-of-a-kind gowns, which have made their away around the country to showcase their unique beauty.
The Joie de Vivre, or “Joy of Life,” event began with servers offering guests delicious complementary hors d’oeuvres and wine. Spellbinders, one of the event sponsors, stationed a table to let people craft together personalized ‘Thank You’ cards. Guests mingled with each other while bidding on silent auctions and raffle items valued at over $150, such as a Village Health Clubs and Spas membership package and Glow Goddesses Airbrush Tanning certificate. Meanwhile, the models arrived at 2:00pm that afternoon to get their hair and makeup done and eagerly awaited backstage to make their big entrance.
The show finally began and was divided into three categories based on the theme of each dress. The first category was the Nature Series, which featured gowns covered in Spanish moss, water lettuce, berries and fall leaves. The “Symbiosis Serenity” couture piece created a full skirt with water lettuce and a giant boat-shaped headpiece made entirely of Spanish moss.
The second category was the Industrial Series, which used metals and wires to put together jaw-dropping pieces. The “Tendular Fusion” gown added a Spanish influence with copper, gold and red brown wires protruding from the skirt and hair. A stunning bright yellow halter top made of orchid petals added a softness to the hard metal.
The final category was the Breathing Series, and offered more elegant and luxurious show-stoppers using feathers, butterflies and orange marigolds. The “Surrendered Vertex” dress was designed by Cathy Grim Aifd, who repurposed her wedding dress for the design and contrasted the delicate white lace with the strength of deer antlers on top of the model’s head. The finale gown generated “oohs and ahs” from the crowd, and was described as a “garden canvas” covered entirely in purple and blue hydrangeas.
Guests were able to take pictures of the stunning couture gowns and some even posed with the models. The night concluded with the announcement of the raffle winners and guests taking home swag bags.
If you missed the event, you can see all of the beautiful gowns at the Phoenix Art Museum starting in April.
Becoming a mom is one of the biggest life changing events that will ever happen to a woman.
Not only do you sacrifice your body; almost every other one of your goals is put on hold. You’re faced with making some of the hardest decisions, like whether you should get a job, go back to school, or simply stay at home.
To society, the most logical thing to do would be to stay at home. People believe that devoting all of your time and energy to your household is the best choice, but that does not always mean not following your dreams.
Having a baby at such a young age I faced not only criticism from the community, but hard decisions that I had to make that not only would be beneficial to my life, but to my daughters as well. Should I continue my education, get a full time job or stay at home and watch over my child 24/7?
To most people, the most obvious answer would be to stay at home. Being raised in a Hispanic culture, I have seen women devote their whole lives to their families. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but what happens if one day the financials of the family fall on your lap? Don’t let the man be the plan.
I decided that I didn’t want to depend on a man to take care of me. I want to be able to say that if times get rough, I’d be able to take care of my family on my own. That is why I chose to not only stay in school, but get a part time job doing what I love so much… writing!
Ladies, don’t let society tell you otherwise, you can do whatever you put your mind to. Going back to school or getting a job doesn’t make you a bad mother; it makes you a mother that is willing to make sacrifices for the better of her family.
So change the status quo. Be more than just a caretaker. Do what you love. Learn to knit, play a sport or find any hobby that makes you the special person that you are.
There is no right or wrong way to be a mom, change it up a little.
At just age thirteen, Ethan Bortnick has moved audiences nationally and internationally as a pianist, composer, singer, entertainer, and a driven humanitarian, dedicated to combining his musical pursuits with his charity work.
The young international piano prodigy will be joined by the Phoenix Youth Symphony for an exclusive performance on Sunday, April 6th, at 3:00 p.m. at the Chandler Center for the Arts, with special guest The Phoenix Boys Choir.
Ethan has toured the world, connecting with diverse audiences in countries such as South Africa, Brazil, Canada and Australia and has helped raise over $30,000,000 for nonprofits around the world. Ethan has shared the stage with such legends as Elton John, Josh Groban, Andrea Bocelli, Beyonce, Reba McEntire, Barbra Streisand, Celine Dion, the Black Eyed Peas, Justin Bieber, and Tony Bennett. His deep musical knowledge, broad tastes, and staggering talents make his performances a treat for the whole family.
About Phoenix Youth Symphony
Established in 1952, the Phoenix Youth Symphony provides opportunities to young people in pursuit of excellence and connect the unconnected through educational, experiential and creative music performance.
Many of the talented young musicians who have been part of the Phoenix Youth Symphony have continued their study of music, becoming professional musicians, music educators, private music teachers, orchestra members, conductors, and soloists.